Not asking you to drop that thought, just simply can you see a reason to drop this lie that argued with reality?

Well, when you apply it to any aspect of your life, you will most probably realize that you have been stressed over for nothing. Suppose you could find a simple way to embrace your life with joy, stop arguing with reality, and achieve serenity in the midst of chaos? That is what Loving What Is offers. It is no less than a revolutionary way to live your life. The question is: are we brave enough to accept it?” Indeed, like I said, there are moments when Bob is actually a perfectly great guy. Both of these turnarounds feel a lot truer than my original statement, and I notice when I’m speaking the truth, I can relax. Embracing the Truth Over and over again she claims that 'the work' will surely lead to the solution to everyones problems, and if not, it surely wasn't the questions that could be at fault, noooo, of course it's the people that just hasn't done their 'work' well enough, or was ready for its brilliance. The only time we suffer is when we believe a thought that argues with what is. When the mind is perfectly clear, what is is what we want.”Byron Katie also seems to discount the importance of planning for the future and having goals. While living wholly in the future or in the past is counter-productive, we need to expend some energy deciding where we want to go and what we want to be and then figuring out how to get there. Sometimes life will throw wrenches in those plans, but we can't remain static and expect to be truly happy. And we do have responsibilities to others, particularly our children.

She’s taught the process, which she calls “The Work” to millions of people over the past three decades, and today, I’d like to share it with you. Complaining has a value of zero. Always. Everybody has problems. Most people don’t care about yours. Whining to empty air isn’t going to change anything. You can’t change reality by being frustrated about it. Unless you use that energy to do something about it, your frustration is useless. This is a very powerful question. Picture yourself standing in the presence of the person you have written about when he (or she) is doing what you think he shouldn’t be doing. Consider, for example, who you would be without the thought “Paul doesn’t listen to me.” Who would you be in the same situation if you didn’t believe that thought? Close your eyes and imagine Paul not listening to you. Imagine yourself without the thought that Paul doesn’t listen to you (or that he even should listen). Take your time. Notice what is revealed to you. What do you see now? How does that feel?Sadly, you are not the only one. Many people feel the same, and think there is no alternative to their unhappy ways of living. We cause our own problems, only all of them. It's just been a misunderstanding, your misunderstanding, not theirs. Not ever, not even a little. Your happiness is your responsibility.

After you’ve done some serious interrogating with your thought, it’s time for what Byron calls the “turnaround.” Flip the original thought on its head invarious ways and just observe how each one makes you feel. Questioning your own judgements and investigating your own feelings and looking at them from other perspectives can lead to many new insights and open your eyes to liberating perepctives and thoughts you've never even considered.

Many times we cannot see the thoughts that trouble as. And even more often, all the stress blinds us to the fact that our thoughts are the ones who are causing our unease. The weather’s always a good icebreaker. It’s neutral, it’s always there, everyone has to deal with it and no one can do much about it. However, it’s also a good way of spotting complainers, because people who complain about the weather tend to complain about a lot of other stuff they can’t control too. This book has taught me that the rain isn't causing my irritation; my irritation is caused when I attach my belief that it shouldn't be raining. Who am I to determine whether or not it rains? It's not my business whether or not it's raining - that's Nature's business, not mine. How about I stay in my own business? How about I figure out what's really causing my irritation?

For instance, when I heard someone say, “People should be more loving,” the question would arise in me, “Can I absolutely know that that’s true? Can I really know for myself, within myself, that people should be more loving? Even if the whole world tells me so, is it really true?” And, to my amazement, when I listened within myself, I saw that the world is what it is in this moment and that in this moment people couldn’t possibly be more loving than they were. Where reality is concerned, there is no “what should be.” There is only what is, just the way it is, right now. The truth is prior to every story. And every story, prior to investigation, prevents us from seeing what’s true. The book's basic tenet is that all our suffering is caused by our attachment to the stories we create about our thoughts. Here's a good example because it's raining in Holland. It's raining. That's the reality. It's not causing me any stress or irritation. However, the moment I start thinking that it shouldn't be raining, I get irritated and sad. Now, the thought that it shouldn't be raining comes to me in thoughts like "I'm so tired of this weather; if it's not warm and sunny I get depressed; rain is such a pain because i get wet, etc" I need Paul to listen to me and to stop lying to me and to share to stop lying to me and to share his feelings and to stop lying to me and to share his feelings and be emotionally available and to stop lying to me and to share his feelings and be emotionally available and to be gentle and kind and patient. In 2003, Byron Katie first introduced the world to The Workwith the publication of Loving What Is.Nearly twentyyears later, Loving What Is continues to inspire people all over the world todo The Work; tolistento the answers they find inside themselves;andto open their minds to profound, spacious, and life-transforming insights.The Work is simply four questions that, when applied to a specific problem, enable you to see what is troubling you in an entirely different light.

Turn It Around

Allow yourself to be as judgmental and Petty as you really feel. Don't try to be spiritual or kind as The Peddler we can be when we're writing the more likely it is will benefit from the work. Okay, my other main disagreement is that the application of the work felt too rationalistic and, again, simplistic to me. The reason being, a person who is applying the work is left with these binaries - "is it true?" (or false?) - when, what's usually the most helpful, I believe, is seeking understanding as to why or in what context something is true or false, not merely asking if it is or isn't. A pragmatic and simple way of getting people to take responsibility for their own problems' -- Time Magazine